Other Side of The Table

THE OTHER SIDE OF THE TABLE

Somebody asked me why don’t you speak on the enemies in our lives and How can we get rid of them? My todays episode is for all those people who think they have enemies in their lives. 

I want to ask all of you are there really enemies in your lives? or are they those, whose frequency of thoughts don’t match with you. Are they the people who are always on other side of the table. There is always a clash of opinions, when you say yes they say no, you go right they go left when you do good they try to do better then you. There is always ego, attitude and arrogance in them. 

Is this your enemy look like?

Then my dearies enemy is not in front of you its within you. Whom you are feeding with your imaginative thoughts and assumptions and this is happening because you have become solid in your beliefs. Our beliefs are shaped by how we choose to view others  and by recognizing this we can foster understanding, peace and harmony. 

There is a Buddhist proverb which says:

“You have no friends. You have no enemies, you only have Teachers”.

We are in a society that has divided itself into good and bad , friends and enemies, right and wrong, stupid and smart, enlightened and ignorant.

This has torn apart families and sown seeds of distrust and fear. When we disagree with someone because they think differently, we stop listening to them and start labelling them, we attempt to eliminate them either by trying to change them, bully them, silence them, marginalize them. The result of such efforts is always pain. Many people confuse the part (what they don’t like about someone with the whole person) don’t put people off from your life because of their mistakes, personalities or beliefs.

 To free ourselves from this we need to redefine the relationship between ourselves and others. In-fact separating ideas from the other person makes you grow. Stop labelling them, as they are the ones who will teach you a life’s lesson, consider them as your teacher.

“Yaad rakhein aapke pass kewal apne vyavhaar ka niyantaran hai dusron ka nahin”.

Criticizing someone because of their mistakes is easy. Stop judging and grow your acceptance of those who think differently. Become smarter than them. The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting. life is 10% what you experience and 90% is how you respond to it. 

I think it’s good to have enemies in your life as they always keep you on toes, they keep you awake, alert and focussed. they test your patience willingness and most importantly your resilience. Instead of ignoring their attacks learn to use them as a way to stay on track. Your enemies will test your ideas, beliefs and faith. That’s why most of us start avoiding those people whose opinions don’t match with us, but precisely that’s what we need being challenged by others we should listen to them rather signing them off. 

Someone asked God:

“Who is your favourite person” God replied, The one who has the power to take Revenge but chooses to forgive.

The best way to show them down is being there for them even when they are not there for you.

We are living in the world where we can do absolutely nothing about other’s even if you are good to them still they will find something bad to gossip about you.  If they hear any good news about you they will remain quiet, but if they hear a negative story, they will spread it with everyone and if they don’t know anything about your life they will start cooking up lies.

“Kuch rishtey hain isliye hum chup hain aur hum chup hain isliye rishtey hain.”

My friend you can’t control what others think or say about you. The mature approach is to let people believe whatever they want, you don’t have to react every time. You have no control over the place, the family and the culture. 

You are a human with emotions and feelings you hold the power to choose who stays and who goes. Still if you attract toxic people in your life then it may indicate a need to examine your own behaviour and boundaries. 

“Ek baar soch ko badalkar dekhiye parinaam apne aap badalne lageinge”

Your enemies will get what is destined for them. So unclench your fist, shut your mouth and remove the anger from your heart. Walk the path of righteousness and let God fight your battles. Remember when someone messes with you, they are messing with God. 

“Jiss prakaar ek majboot pathar ko badeh badeh toofan bhi hila nahin paate, theek ussi tarah budhiman vayakti apni tareef ya aalochanaa se prabhavit nahin hote.”

When other people treat you poorly. keep being you. Don’t let someone else’s bitterness change the person you are.

There will be times in your life when you will realize that no matter what you do for others it will never be good enough for them.

 Now comes the question is that your problem or their?

“Achi niyat se Ishwar prasan hote hain aur dikhawe se insaan, Ye hum par nirbhar karta hai hum kise khush karna chahtein hain.”

Love your enemies, Bless those who curse you, Do good to those who hate you and pray for those who persecute you. 

–Om Namaha, Blessings to All–

You can always listing to this and more on my podcast, available on on major streaming platforms “Midididiforever – Spiritual Conversations”